I truly believe that if you want to live a positive and productive life, you need to steer clear of toxic people. Toxic People have a way of negatively impacting your life. It has been my experience that toxic people eventually pollute everything around them. So today, I want to share with you three toxic people whom you need to remove from your inner circle.
- Steer clear of Ball and Chain. A Ball and Chain represents someone that is intentionally holding you back from the positive things you really want to achieve in life. When you present a Ball and Chain with your idea, they immediately begin to speak negatively about the things you’re trying to accomplish. They give you 101 reasons why it can’t be done. They will also point to everyone who has ever tried something similar and failed. The goal of a Ball and Chain is to hold you back and prevent you from chasing your dreams. This is why the Bible cautions us in 2 Corinthians 6:14, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers…..” It is always dangerous to have someone with a different belief system in your inner circle. Don’t allow a Ball and Chain to hold you back from your God given goals and opportunities.
- Steer clear of Judgmental Johnny. A Judgmental Johnny is a person who loves to point out the negative traits in other people’s lives, while ignoring their own shortcomings. A Judgmental Johnny has the ability to see the inconsistencies in everyone’s life, but their own. They are the people who thrive on nitpicking and criticizing everyone outside their inner circle. Yet, Jesus says in Matthew 7:4-5, “How can you say to your brother, let me take the speck out of your eye, when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? (5)You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother eye.” In other words, you should remove, from your inner circle, anyone who can’t see their own shortcomings. A naysayer always sees the negative.
- Steer clear of Control Freak. A Control Freak is a person who feels like they ALWAYS know what’s best for you. Control Freaks are micro-managers who demand that you meet their expectations no matter how unreasonable. In a Control Freak’s mind, their plans and ideas will always supersede yours. They don’t know how to compromise. In their world, you have to go along to get along. I like what Philippians 2:3 says, “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.” You should never be forced to conform to another person’s will, in order to be accepted by them. Especially, when you’re not sure whether they are right.
Yes, I truly believe it is possible to live a positive and productive life. In order to do so, we have to remove the toxic people out of our inner circle. We have to steer clear of the Ball and Chains of this world. We have to steer clear of the Judgmental Johnny’s. And, we have to steer clear of the Control Freaks. In doing so, we will eliminate many of our self-imposed barriers to success. I leave you with the words found in 1 Corinthians 15:33, “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character.”