The word tea is used by many young African Americans as a slang term to describe gossiping. In fact, the Urban Dictionary defines tea as “gossip or personal information belonging to someone else.” Tea is typically personal information about someone else’s life, that is too juicy to keep to yourself. Today, I want to share three biblical reasons spilling the tea or gossiping about someone is wrong.
- It is wrong to spill the tea by slandering someone’s name. To slander a person’s name means that you purposely spread rumors in hopes of damaging their reputation or character. It means you spread information with the intentions of hurting them. Your goal in sharing the information is to always cast them in a negative light. Yet, the Bible warns in Colossians 3:8, “But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as theses: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips.” As Christians, we should eliminate slander and other evil practices from our life. We should never purposely indulge in tearing others down.
- It is wrong to spill the tea by spreading rumors. A rumor is when you hear something and spread it without verifying whether or not it’s true. A rumor is spreading unsubstantiated information. As Christians, we should never circulate a story without certainty as to the facts. The Bible says it best in Proverbs 13:3, “He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin.” We get ourselves in all kinds of trouble when we share information without taking the time to check its validity.
- Sometimes listening to the tea is as bad as spilling it. Proverbs 17:4 states, “A wicked man listens to evil lips; a liar pays attention to a malicious tongue.” There is an old saying, “Don’t tell me what they said about me, tell me why they felt so comfortable telling you.” Are you a person who encourages or discourages the spreading of this type of negativity? I want to encourage you to shut down these types of conversations, as soon as they are presented. You are not a garbage can. Don’t let people dump their rumors on you.
Spilling the tea is tempting but in most cases it is biblically wrong. Circulating unverified information can ruin a person’s personal or professional life. I want to leave you today with the words found in Proverbs 18:8, “The words of a gossip are like choice morsels; they go down to a man’s inmost parts.” I have found that good gossip is like a tasty dessert, you can’t take just one bite. The best thing to do is to never indulge in it in the first place.